Speaking is probably the easiest thing you can do, but t speak in a way that people would want to listen to, is definitely one of the hardest things to do.
In fact, speaking is the reason why we have problems in the first place, starting from a simple conflict in the family that might end up with a break and tears apart the entire family to an argument between politicians that might end up with a war.
That’s why mastering the art of communication is probably the best thing you can do.
So, lets’ talk about two rules that if you follow, people will certainly listen to you.
Choose the right time and right place
How often do you talk do you talk about serious topics in the kitchen during dinner when everyone had a long day and all they want is to relax. Or,
Criticize a friend in front of others when you are chilling out.
Speaking is so easy that we do not consider it as a special activity that we have to plan and prepare for, and that’s why we mostly end up doing it in the wrong time and the wrong place.
When someone is angry or had a bad day, it’s not the time to criticize them because that will only lead to an argument and won’t result in anything good. Next time, you want to pull out a joke or raise an important question, ask yourself if now the right time to do that is.
Know what and why
You should clearly know what are you saying and why? And there are three steps for it.
Firstly:
What the other person should know after the conversation and why?
If you can’t summaries your message into a single sentence, then you shouldn’t start the conversation in the first place because the person you are talking to, most probably will misunderstand you.
Secondly:
What should he feel after the conversation?
What kind of emotions do you want him to experience?
Do you want him to feel sad, happy, angry or inspired?
Have you ever considered this before talking to someone?
If you want your message to be understood clearly, you have to be very careful with his or her emotions.
Thirdly:
What action do you want him to take after the conversations?
Help you out, change his behavior or you want him to simply read a book for example?
The problem is that we often throw out words without a specific purpose, so they ruin the entire conversation.
By applying these two rules, you will find more people listening to you and you will avoid the countless number of unnecessarily arguments and conflicts.
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